Author Archives: Tonya Tee

Pain and Love are Incompatible

If you are in emotional pain, embrace it. You need to allow yourself to address your hurts. Then and only then will you be able to feel & give love. Love is a necessity. I don’t care if it’s love from a significant other, love from friends, or love from family. In the words ofContinue reading “Pain and Love are Incompatible”

Rage Can Be Controlled

Rage causes us to “see red.” It blocks our ability to fully grasp the severity of the situation at hand. It’s in this state we misunderstand & misread many circumstances that caused the situations. We are choosing to ignore the facts because we are focused on our feelings of anger & discontent. Reacting in aContinue reading “Rage Can Be Controlled”

Self-Help: You are Worthy

What are damaged goods? Goods that are now bad, no longer have value, and can no longer be consumed or used. Some people have hurt others by telling them they are “damaged goods, no good, no one will want them, or they are has-beens.” However, such is not the case! First of all, a goodContinue reading “Self-Help: You are Worthy”

An Erotic Memory: That One Saturday Morning

Nothing will ever top that one special day at his sister’s house. That one Saturday morning when he called to say his sister was gone for the day, and he had to have me. That one Saturday morning where he actually made love to me. He never admitted it. He didn’t have to. I saw itContinue reading “An Erotic Memory: That One Saturday Morning”

7 Movies I Watch Every Christmas Season

Christmas is my favorite holiday, opposite my summer birthday. While I detest the commercialism surrounding Christmas, I love the societal shift. It’s as if society becomes one nice person during the holiday season. It’s a marvel to witness! I wasn’t raised to commercially celebrate Christmas. I was raised to celebrate Christmas as the day weContinue reading “7 Movies I Watch Every Christmas Season”

Facts vs Feelings

Feelings are an individual’s responses or reactions to situations we find ourselves in after being hit with new information. They say, “You can’t choose your feelings,” or “you feel what you feel.” Well, the famed rapper Too Short says, “Don’t fight the feeling.” Though his song is quite sexual in nature, his title is perfect.Continue reading “Facts vs Feelings”

Tone is Not Always Audible

DISCLAIMER: I’ll be using Tone as a proper noun here and there for differentiation. It’s been said, “A person’s tone can’t be detected in a text message or email.” My response was, “The lies people tell themselves!” The same way tone is detected in a book or a newspaper article is the same way itContinue reading “Tone is Not Always Audible”

Dear, Facebook.

I have been a member of Facebook since April 2012 and while I have enjoyed connecting with friends, family, enemies, former classmates, and former co-workers, one thing has remained; I don’t like Facebook changes. Since I joined, Facebook (FB) has changed its format a few times, and given us additions like avatars, Did You KnowContinue reading “Dear, Facebook.”